Acknowledge your feelings — it is normal to sense sadness and grief (particularly after a loss) — No one has to force themselves to be happy just because it is the holiday season!
Seek support — family, friends, church, community groups, volunteering — no one has to be alone. It may at first seem hard but you will be surprised -- others like company too!
When there are differing opinions, try to not personalize them
If other relatives are sniping at each other, leave the room, take a walk or a deep breath or listen to some pleasant music -- whatever will "lighten" your space.
Be understanding if others get upset or distressed
Consider having a holiday meal out if tension is likely at the dining room table — people behave better and try to avoid a scene
Stick to a budget and know your limits
Plan your shopping and think about a gift with meaning (expensive gifts are not always the ones that mean the most)
Shop early and watch for sales
Don't overlook a special gift for yourself
Delegate! Let others share in the responsibility of planning activities
Plan ahead — set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting and other activities
Learn to say "No" or "I just canít do that right now, let's figure out another time or project."
Avoid being too ambitious — a gingerbread mansion would be just as fun to build on Valentine’s Day!
Go easy on alcohol (excessive drinking will only increase your feelings of depression). Better yet have a hot chocolate!
Be realistic — families and traditions change — hold on to those you can and find new ways to celebrate
Rethink resolutions — be realistic and make sure they are valuable
Forget about perfection
Stay flexible — physically and emotionally
Seek professional help if needed
Rein in your expectations and take a moment to appreciate the simple things!
If despite your best efforts to remain upbeat this holiday season, you find yourself down for a sustained period of time, get help. Don't try to "tough it out" alone. There are treatment options available to you that could make a significant difference in your life.
For patient inquiries, or to make an appointment with a St. Luke’s psychotherapist or psychiatrist, call 484-526-2400
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